30th birthday

Suddenly, I am now at the Phase of life which is the furthest I have imagined myself to.be when I'm still day dreaming in my teens. I must say this, I have aged well. I think this is a good age to do a check on myself past 30 years of existence...

1) I enjoy turning to 30 than I did when turning to 21. Both were a milestone for me, but maybe I have Candice which I didnt have earlier. Well, I think that takes a huge pie why I'm enjoying every moment now too...

2) I have realised I have lost contacts with everyone whom were with me in my earlier part of my life. And I'm not talking about just friends. My cousins who were with me during childhood, somehow has distanced ourselves from each other. My army friends from BMT, OCS and NSF life are also not actively in contacts. Well, I still hear from them, and Facebook has indeed provided a good method to keep up to date with their life progressions. Also my Poly friends, sec sch classmates and everyone whom I have had a good relationship with. Somehow I feel quite bad about this, because I feel that I should keep good relationships with ppl whom I have been through thick and thin.

I need to seriously improve on maintaining good relationship with close friends. Some of us has started to start communicating through whatsapps, and I think at this age, I'm not the only one getting nostalgic.

3) My wife has always been a great part of my life. I have hurted her and took her for granted over a period of time. But luckily she stood by me and I definitely is grateful for ehatever she has done. She has given me a lovely daughter, she has helped in financially so we can upgrade ourselves. She is a real fighter. I'm glad she is enjoying her work and life now, and I will do whatever it takes to have her continue to lead her life.

I will also have to step up to show my love for her. I have seen real life examples of how a good marriage can end up on the rocks if not managed.

4) Managing my life. I think I can improve a great deal on this issue. I used have a bad habit of taking things too lightly and being over confidence in everything. This has to change. I need to start anticipating problems and plan things proactively. There are too many times I'm being reactive, leaving things to chances, believing there is a solution when times come. Apparently, there is no such things. All success are engineered and all situations can be controlled. Health, finance and looks are also to be better looked into and treasured before its gone!!

5) Candice is the only part which I felt I have given my best to her. Having said that, I hope I can be a good example to her for point 4. I hope she will not develop a sense of non-chalent which will impact a lot of opportunities.

These are the few points which will form the indicators if I have done well when I reach 35. Hopefully I can achieve the 5 goals which I would like to see myself improve on!

I just realised the below post that's still saved under my draft. It should be made more than a year ago, where one of my close friends were undergoing a difficult phase of their life. While, they didn't work that out in the end. Nonetheless, at least they are now both happy with their individual life. Here's the below posts...



Having watched so many dramas, nothing stir my heart as much as what i'm watching now.

Local made - 再见单人床。

Of all, I learnt a lot on love, marriage and most importantly, being a husband.

3 scenes touched my raw nerves.

Episode 13 - Ting kai is being chided for being too "reasonable"

Episode 17 - "Heart" betrayal protrayed by Qiu Yu.

Episode 18 - Priest preaching on love. 爱是恒久忍耐，又有恩慈；爱是不嫉妒，爱是不自夸，不张狂，不作害羞的事，不求自己的益处，不轻易发怒，不计算人的恶，不喜欢不义，只喜欢真理；凡事包容，凡事相信，凡事盼望，凡事忍耐；爱是永不止息 ——《圣经》


Male creatures are logical thinking creatures. Everything is analysed. Every movement, speech, facial expression and situation is properly processed in the brain. Then, in response, we make calculated reply or reactions to the situation. The end result determine how good we are in making the decision.
 
Decisions - seemed to be the top most criteria in every male's character. I give my respect to the best decision making person, regardless of his status. 
 
Hence, in front of our greatest and most precious partner, we past our judgement values on them. That means we think they judge us based on how we make decision. They DO NOT. But this is already drilled into our sub-conscious, and is already part of us. During arguements, any situation that requires instant reflexes, we forget this criteria, that women don't judge us based on our ability to make decision.